Recently, I've been doing a lot of thinking about getting married and what that picture would look like. It's amazing to me how we as people, often seem to have this picturesque idea of what we think a married life is supposed to be.
Well, I know I do...here's a glimpse of what most people view marriage as looking like. You meet this person and fall in love and decide to get married. Everything about this person makes you feel great. Just thinking about them sets your heart on fire. Not to mention, when you see them. Tsst, that's the sound of wetting my finger and touching something really hot. You get the picture. The fantasy is the most beautiful person you've ever seen, everything about them is amazing. Fantasy person makes you feel alive, your whole world is brand new and all you want to do is just smile whenever you think about them.
This person is usually beautifully flawless, and who absolutely caters to your every whim. This person totally understands all of your needs and fulfills each and everyone of them without fail.
Ahh NOT!!
C'mon now, you know good and well that's not how marriage works. Now hold on, I don't mean to sound cynical, but that's where the very problem begins. Most people go into a marriage thinking of themselves and all the things that someone else is going to do for them. We usually never fantasize about all the things we get to do for the other person, well, other than sex.
Most people who are longing to be married, think of marriage as some big jack pot. Many are deceived in thinking that all your troubles are over and that's just not true. If you were a jerk before you got married, you'll still be a jerk after you're married. If you're a slob and didn't like to clean up before you got married, more than likely, you'll still be a slob after the I Do's.
It's not that the love has failed, or that we've even made a mistake in our choice of mate. People often give up because of selfish thinking and desires.
In the book of Genesis, Adam said to Eve "you are now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh." At that moment, God only recognized them as one unit , not two anymore. the two became one. Usually, when people first get married, everything is wonderful. The two agree on things together, making decisions for one another. They consider each others needs and oblige one another.
There are so many who get married and then shortly after, they say the love is gone, no its not. Somewhere down the line, selfishness stepped in and decided to stay awhile and have some tea and crumpets. That's when the one unit becomes two again. At that point, everything is about their own selfish desires and what someone else can do for them, and if you don't meet all of those demands, then it's over.
God intended for marriage to be about love, commitment and intimacy. It's a whole lot more than just feeling a certain way about a person. Love is a choice. Even when you don't feel it, you keep on loving the other person until you get that feeling again.
Well, I know I do...here's a glimpse of what most people view marriage as looking like. You meet this person and fall in love and decide to get married. Everything about this person makes you feel great. Just thinking about them sets your heart on fire. Not to mention, when you see them. Tsst, that's the sound of wetting my finger and touching something really hot. You get the picture. The fantasy is the most beautiful person you've ever seen, everything about them is amazing. Fantasy person makes you feel alive, your whole world is brand new and all you want to do is just smile whenever you think about them.
This person is usually beautifully flawless, and who absolutely caters to your every whim. This person totally understands all of your needs and fulfills each and everyone of them without fail.
Ahh NOT!!
C'mon now, you know good and well that's not how marriage works. Now hold on, I don't mean to sound cynical, but that's where the very problem begins. Most people go into a marriage thinking of themselves and all the things that someone else is going to do for them. We usually never fantasize about all the things we get to do for the other person, well, other than sex.
Most people who are longing to be married, think of marriage as some big jack pot. Many are deceived in thinking that all your troubles are over and that's just not true. If you were a jerk before you got married, you'll still be a jerk after you're married. If you're a slob and didn't like to clean up before you got married, more than likely, you'll still be a slob after the I Do's.
It's not that the love has failed, or that we've even made a mistake in our choice of mate. People often give up because of selfish thinking and desires.
In the book of Genesis, Adam said to Eve "you are now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh." At that moment, God only recognized them as one unit , not two anymore. the two became one. Usually, when people first get married, everything is wonderful. The two agree on things together, making decisions for one another. They consider each others needs and oblige one another.
There are so many who get married and then shortly after, they say the love is gone, no its not. Somewhere down the line, selfishness stepped in and decided to stay awhile and have some tea and crumpets. That's when the one unit becomes two again. At that point, everything is about their own selfish desires and what someone else can do for them, and if you don't meet all of those demands, then it's over.
God intended for marriage to be about love, commitment and intimacy. It's a whole lot more than just feeling a certain way about a person. Love is a choice. Even when you don't feel it, you keep on loving the other person until you get that feeling again.
Love suffers long, and is kind; love does not envy, love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things, Love never fails. I corinthians 13:4-8.
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